RichardMichael 
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Re: “Sleeping Around Craigslist

It's so much different for men, at least in Connecticut. I was widowed almost two years ago and have alternately put in ads on Craigslist for LTR's and casual sex because when someone has not been with a woman, physically and emotionally, for so long it becomes kind of a Summer of 42 in reverse. Just to hold a woman, touch, kiss, laugh would be great. I have also gone on a number of LTR dates and I think someone had to pretend they are in love to enjoy a sexual encounter. A friend who also lost his wife in her 50's told me to avoid the pay sites as they were totally fake. I have had a few women write about possibly casual sex but they find out the distance is 50 miles is too great or some other reason. Also, unless a woman has a clear understanding I would not have a sexual encounter with a married woman.
I do believe the fear of disease, danger in meeting someone new, past experiences with awful men in bed or just encountering terrible people in general are also big factors. I am 58, reasonably good looking, in shape, financially and physically, working, a professional, etc. I have written such an assortment of types of ads no one would believe it. Anyway, I will tell you no woman is giving it away unless someone is an obvious player, which seems to be inborn. There are other reasons nothing hasn't happened. The few women who wrote were extremely large which is just not attractive to me, sorry to say that for the BBW, apparently my photo I sent doesn't do it, there are some women just fantasizing and don't really want to or mean to carry out their idea, or it's generally much more puritanical out there than one thinks. Another factor is my wife was so beautiful and classy very few women compare, particularly the few who have written. In addition, women are going to younger men which is understandable. As one said, she doesn't have to go anywhere to find sex. Also, most people who have affairs have them at work. Perhaps the the biggest reason for the difficulty in finding a sexual perhaps is that most women after menopause don't enjoy sex, or men for that fact. Many have lost their husbands because of their lack of interest in sex and some actually wonder why their husbands strayed. Many of these women have their little world of work, their friends they can travel with, their clubs, workouts, books, etc. Then there are are large percentage of women who are the friends firsters who might have sex after menopause with the right man but really will only put up with it for a while with no intention of it continuing after than bond is made. A few very young women have toyed with the idea but have decided to opt out eventually or hint about paying their bills. So that's my perspective. It may be cynical but sex is just more enjoyable for men but much more difficult to find as the women are the selectors. I hope that the younger generation's women have fewer hangups about sex because despite the sexual revolution of the 70's many women over 50 still have the guilt about sex, one may even point out the Catholic guilt or scarlet letter of enjoying sex, especially oral. Remember the missionary position was the only acceptable way to have sex. Girls who slept even with a boyfriend in high
school were looked down upon and and if they slept with more than one guy they were looked upon as sluts.
So after two years I am still a reborn virgin.
Richard

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Posted by RichardMichael on 12/25/2009 at 8:45 AM

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