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Re: “A Father's Quest

My husband has been in the Hayward Family Court with his exwife for 8 years and we have gotten no where. We have $30,000 in lawyer bills which compound when the mothers attorney will not sign court orders and the Judge will not sign after the waiting period. hey big Suprise we have Comissioner Hendrickson also. She is a man HATER and it isnt racial becuase my husband is white, it is just a man thing. The mother in this case is mentally abusive and the child begged not to live with her and Comissioner Hendrickson allowed the child to stay with the mother until this summer when we took our case and started complaining to ANYONE who would listen. We were granted custody, but not child support, in fact we have to pay the mother $650 a month becuase she DOESNT WORK and when custody was changed the Comissioner didnt find it necessary to change the child support, so now we have custody and have to pay for the child also. Just becuase we have custody doesn't mean that we have won. The judge has our whole life mapped out for us, all of us in our home, child, me and my husband have to go to counseling which costs $1000 a month the mother gets to tell us what to do with the child when we have him and she NEVER has followed any court order in the 8 years. We have over 200 police reports that she refused to bring him for visitations and the court refuses to listen and in fact has given her more time with the child that we ever got which leaves him in a constant state of unrest visiting her mentally ill house and then trying to come back to sanity here. Something must be done about this Comissioner, she is ruining peoples lives. I must say that I have always supported my husband in being involved in his sons life, at times pushing him, but I completely understand why fathers are dead beats, it is becuase they do not want to FIGH mentally ill mothers who focus on every little thing. Let your children live and love freely, be glad that they have 2 parents or more to love them....we get 100 emails a week from my husbands ex telling us all of the stuff that we do thing that we do right is school, our child has the best grades ever since moving with us and while we do not have a court date set for the future, we anticipate the mother taking us back for custody ASAP and I pray that Comissioner Hendrickson is either GONE for good or really thinks about what is in the best interest of the child and STOP trying to appease the mothers. Children need their fathers, perhaps the reason that Ms., Self in this case doesnt have her life in order is becuase she was raised by a single mother...not saying that is a bad thing, but kids NEED THEIR FATHERS, my children need their father too, which is why I could never imagine ending up in a situation like this. Mothers need to start loving their children more than they hate their ex, it isnt about the adults, it is about the child. Stand up for what it right and fight until the end, it almost caused us to file bankrupcy, but there is a change that SOME day it will end in your favor.....for all of the other fathers out there FIGH FIGHT FIGHT....your son will know that you did it for him and he willl resent his mom for keeping you from him, just know that EVERY SINGLE day of the rest of your life will be a FIGHT, even if you get custody like we did.....there is always a FIGHT. Good luck and god bless.

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Posted by youdlvoetoknow on 01/23/2010 at 9:49 AM

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