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Re: “Oakland Counseling Guru Accused of Sexual Assault

Hi all, just jumped into the post from the UK. I am a qualified (bacp & cosrt) practicing psychosexual and couples counsellor. Therapy here is not 'hands on' and not meds based, I and my colleagues have to have professional supervision, which entails presenting my clients, and my feelings, actions and thoughts towards a client... thus aiding to separate the erotic transference AND counter- tranference (my erotic feelings towards a client).

I am not trying to explain away the horrendous abuse of trust and sexual exploitation towards this practitioners clients but I would like to inform you.

If you add transferences with a personality disorders, let's say: Narcissistic personality disorder (I am God.) You have a recipe for the appalling violations that are being reported. There is a reason that predators select a few, of many people, and that is as we all have different levels of 'desire'...which can feel overwhelming with some clients ( due to the counter-transferenCE).

Though the current spitlight is focused on males in society, my experiences having worked in a specialist charity here in the u.k (whose client base is solely men who had been recipients of unwanted sexual experiences)... Is that approximately 40% of predators here in the United.K. are women, who are nearly always in a position of power , and men are far less likely to come forward (statistically) when women have been the predators.

I am sad to read of the distress placed on our communities and social fabric with these appalling allegations. If proved, you have to ask yourself 'why', and what checks and balances need to be put in place to prevent it happening again.

As a therapist I have to resist and be able to work with the tranferences between myself and clients as it informs the therapy on the unconscious then into the conscious level. The healing comes with naming what's happening and neither rejecting nor acting out with the client. The client has to experience me as a 'good' male object that can be trusted. I may be the only 'good' male role model that they have ever experienced and here is where the new template of trust is born.

Posted by tri-therapy on 12/16/2017 at 4:11 AM

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