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Re: “A Father's Quest

I agree with one thing in this article -- the family court system is broken. The status quo of injustice in the family courts is staunchly defended by the very bad actors who cause the injustice and are enriched by it. It's a cottage industry of greedy people who make a handsome living ruining the lives of the innocent victims, mostly the children. Whenever I see a reporter resort to quoting a zealous father's rights activist like Sachs, I know for certain the story is going to be biased. I don't know the facts in this case, so I can't comment on the outcome, but I do know that Sach's claim that courts are biased against fathers is false, and has been proven false in several peer reviewed research studies, as another commenter stated previously. The fathers' rights legal industry is a big money making business, but there are no mothers' rights law firms that I know of, and I've been following this injustice for almost a decade. Why? Mothers don't control the purse strings in most families. Even though there are laws on the books that prevent one party from dissipating marital assets in a divorce, and starving their spouse out of a legal defense, they aren't enforced on behalf of women. One commenter here said something very revealing about what I believe to be the underlying truth in this story. They said that the father used to have total control over the mother in the beginning. My suspicion, if this case is like THOUSANDS of others across the country, is that he is furious that he no longer can control her, and he's using the child to try to control her. Another commenter said something that I've been saying for years -- it only takes ONE to wage a custody battle. Now in this case, it sounds like there are two parties tango-ing here, but that is not always the case. In virtually every custody case that I have reviewed, the father was abusive and controlling in the relationship. He uses the court room as a tool to continue to control and abuse the mother. And it is absolutely FALSE that women make up allegations of abuse in order to win custody -- the opposite is true, thanks to "friendly parent" provisions put into law by fathers' rights advocates. These status put an abused woman in a catch 22 situation. If she discloses the abuse, she stands to lose custody to the "friendlier" parent. If she doesn't disclose the abuse, she may lose custody anyway, especially if the father has money. It's a shame that the media continues to buy into this myth about bias against fathers in family court. Fatherhood supremacists continue to spread this myth without evidence, as if the truth is in the telling -- if you say it often enough, people will believe it. The truth is that mothers by the THOUSANDS are losing custody of their children based on friendly parent statutes and bogus legal strategies like "parental alienation", and children are being placed into the hands of their abusers. When fathers disobey court orders, nothing happens. When mothers do, in defense of their children, they get thrown in jail by civil court judges, without benefit of a trial, or a jury of her peers. Judges put gag orders on women to prevent them from talking to the media. The only way we're going to fix this broken system is to put caps on what the attorneys and psychologists, social workers, etc. are paid in scandalous custody cases. You'd be amazed how quickly the "bias" will disappear.

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Posted by 4RKids on 01/15/2010 at 2:05 PM

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