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Let's do a quick risk/reward analysis, LUST. By hitting on this woman, you're risking your relationship with your best friend, your best friend's sister, your best friend's mom, and all future family holiday/vacation invites for the potential reward of getting into the pants of your best friend's hot married older sister once or twice. Seems like a lot to risk if you ask me, LUST, and you did. That said, there are a lot of married bi women out there. But if Gladys has an open relationship with her husband — or if they're actively searching for a unicorn — it would be better if they made the first move. So keep flirting and live in hope.
A girl I worked with introduced me to your podcast a couple of months ago. You must get this e-mail (or variations on it) all the time, but I wanted to say thank you for the Savage Lovecast. It has made me feel a lot more comfortable about some of the things I like to do, consensually, with my loving GGG boy. My girlfriends sometimes turn their noses up at some of the sexual stuff I've tried or mentioned being interested in trying. The calls and guest experts on your podcast make me feel so much more normal, and my boyfriend loves that I've recently become a lot more open about the things I want to do. I don't have a question, Dan, I just wanted to let you know that I appreciate what you and the tech-savvy at-risk youth do every week.
Eager Nice Girl Living In Scottish Highlands
Thanks for the lovely note, ENGLISH, and tell your boyfriend I said hello. And remember, dear readers, if you're not listening to my weekly podcast — check out our brand-new site at SavageLovecast.com — you're not getting your full weekly dose of Savage Love.
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out that she was pregnant and a few days later miscarried. Obviously, I was surprised and also concerned for her. We talked about it a few times over the phone, even though I'm seeing somebody else now.
Emotionally, she has not been dealing with the situation very well. She says that she cries whenever she sees babies. I've been making an effort to be supportive, but she thinks that I could be doing more. She also told me after we stopped seeing each other that she is in love with me. Which brings us to the issue: She's been getting therapy since the miscarriage. She thinks I should help pay for her therapy; I'm reluctant, but I want to do what's right. On one hand, I did get her pregnant, and the pregnancy/miscarriage was the catalyst for her seeking therapy. On the other, it was a casual relationship and she has other personal issues. Obviously, if she were pregnant now, I would pay or at least help pay for an abortion. But she's not pregnant. She's unhappy, and I'm not sure what the scope of my responsibility is for that.
What Do I Do?
P.S. I've been reading your column for years, and I think it has had a profoundly positive impact on my life: Thank you.
It saddens me when someone with such colossally defective bullshit detectors signs off with "I've been reading you for years." Perhaps you have, WDID, but to seemingly little effect.
Forgive me for being blunt: How do you know she got pregnant and had a miscarriage? Because she — a girl who says she's in love with you — told you so. Did it not occur to you that she might have made this all up in an effort — successful thus far — to retain your attention if not your affections? Don't pay for her therapy, don't spend all day on the phone with her, and don't believe everything you're told.
In fairness: There's a small chance she isn't lying, WDID; according to Planned Parenthood, if you were using condoms carefully and correctly, there's a 2 percent chance your ex got pregnant. Even so, your emotional obligations to her ended when the relationship did, and your financial obligations ended with the miscarriage.
I'm a straight girl who started dating this straight guy six months ago. Three months in, he told me he is a crossdresser. I'm a fairly open-minded person, and I was curious what it would be like to have sex with him dressed. It brought our sex life to a new level that is very pleasing to both of us. The problem is that I find myself very sexually attracted to him dressed. I'm not as attracted to him when he isn't dressed, and the sex isn't as exciting for me. He said he's happy to dress for sex, and although I like that, now I'm afraid of getting into a routine where we will only enjoy sex in that way and down the road I may grow tired of the dressed sex and crave a regular guy. I think we both lower our inhibitions when we have sex while he's dressed. I guess I don't understand why.
Confused And Curious
When he's dressed, he's giving himself permission to live out his fantasies (with an assist from you); when you see him dressed, your inhibitions lift because, hey, there's no way you can freak out or outfreak the boyfriend. Routines can be deadly, of course, but I wouldn't worry about being stuck in a rut. You've only been doing this for a few months, and his crossdressing is still a shiny new toy. And you can't simultaneously worry that you'll come to only enjoy sex while he's dressed up and that you'll grow bored with sex while he's dressed up. If you continue to enjoy dressed-up sex, you won't get bored; if you get bored, then you can go back to non-dressed-up sex.
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