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What frustrates me is that I am a 43 year old woman (never married and single), who is judged everyday for my choice of not to have any children. Also, I am offered no incentives in the workplace, beyond that fact that my co-workers and peers assume I have "all this free time", and I should be the one to shoulder the more intensive work projects. Just because I am not a Mommy does not mean my life is a "bowl of cherries" and I have "all this free time." I really don't. I know that I see the judgement from other women, when I tell them I made a long, soul searching decision not to have children. I've even been called "selfish", and taken to task by friends of mine, who wag their finger and lecture me about what "will happen to this planet if educated, bright young women like me stop having children." A big reason I decided not to have a child or children is, I have goals and dreams I wish to accomplish, and work to do, that being a mother, I would have to defer my plans, AND I feel this planet is terribly overpopulated, and doesn't need me adding one more person to it. We women are judged no matter what we decide to do, on the matter of our wombs, and so, I realize when I am being judged about my decision not to bring a child/children into this world, it really isn't personal, and has more to do with the woman/women judging me, and their fears/worries/insecurities/concerns, than about myself.
Ditto, Wanda. That would be one of the riskiest and sadly, one of the boldest choices bay area theatres could make. Sadly, the bay area suffers from insecurity in the burgeoning talent pool it has. We have an embarrassment of riches, in our local talent, and sadly, most of the theatres don't trust the talent we have. They fly in talent, which must be ungodly expensive, AND eat into a subsantial amount of a theatre company's budget. I hear 'Budget crisis' from SO many theatre companies in the bay area, and yet, when you look at the bios of the actors in their productions, you'll see that this actor works in NYC, Chicago, LA...why not cast locally??? It makes no sense. It's not like this is the film industry, where producers hope to get 'buts in the seats', by casting A-List actors with a HUGE draw. I just don't get it. We have SO much talent right here, and yet, if you ask Berkeley Rep, ACT, Theatreworks, etc, they cast out of town talent...my question is, why?
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