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Just to add context to this comment: "I went into it thinking, 'I'm gonna have a bunch of ugly, socially awkward people,'" she confessed, with a sardonic laugh. "I think that people wish that that were true. It feels safer, doesn't it?"
What I mean by "It feels safer" is not that it feels safer for me, but rather, as long as socially we project the idea that only "ugly, socially awkward people" are clients of sex workers (and by "people" we mean "men") then it means we don't have to worry that our socially more attractive/adjusted partners/siblings/kids are seeing sex workers. Our projected desire to believe that sex work clients are "THOSE people" is, in a way, sex work prejudice- only people who "have" to see sex workers (seen as unsafe, dirty, undesirable) do so. Many awesome people see also awesome sex workers- but to admit that we need to be a lot more comfortable with sexual desire as being a good enough reason to see a sex worker, and we need to admit that sex work is a viable work option for many reasons to many people. :)
As someone who's been a storyteller, I enjoy the casual nature of the event, personally. It's like telling a story at the dinner table- I don't need everyone to be staring me in the face to feel listened to, and I like the little whispers. And I love the other stories- they're recountings of places and people I know, which makes it fun, told in ways that entertain me. I'm really surprised to hear your account that an event which has had stories about ripped foreskins, bunnies invading the bed, and quickies in Walmart as "prudish"! I'm amused at your portrayal of Sister Mable, Danarama and Midori as having an air of pompousness, but then, these are people from a community I'm pretty familiar with.
I get the impression that you came to this event not wanting to be there and wrote down everything you disliked. Oh well- it's not for everyone, and maybe you should be back when you have a story to tell. It's hard to be up there. It's easy to sit in the audience and sniff- perhaps, when you think about pompousness, you should engage in some self-reflection about your own perspectives? Just a theory. ::shrug::
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